This is about asbestos. It is also about memory, power, and who gets protected.

Toxic City: Asbestos, Amnesia, and the Collapse of Care lays out a story many in Shoalhaven already recognise. Swift action when risk sits inside council walls. Silence when that same risk sits in a small village, under roads, near creeks, beside homes.

This is collaborative community advocacy at its best, from Spark Shoalhaven in Politics. It opens with a preface by Cat Holloway and centres the long, sustained work of Peter Allison. His work is seminal. It shows what happens when ordinary people keep records, keep asking questions, and keep going long after institutions move on.

This is about asbestos. It is also about memory, power, and who gets protected.

How many versions of this reckoning do we need before we all stand up, in some way, no matter how small.

First they came for a small place.
Then they came for people without power.
Then they came for something they should never have ignored.

If you live in Shoalhaven, read it.
If you care about how councils work, read it.
If you wonder how systems drift away from accountability, read it.

And if you are part of a group somewhere else, watching something similar unfold, this is an invitation. We are learning that shared stories, shared evidence, and shared pressure travel further together.

You Don’t Have to Be Angry to Be Brave

This blog is a follow up to an earlier blog “When Advocacy Turns Dangerous: The Moment You Can’t Stay Silent”

Are you like me, someone who wants to speak up when you see or hear something unjust, but sometimes hesitates because you don’t want to make things worse, or make someone feel small?

That hesitation comes from care. Most of us don’t want to hurt people; we want to make things better. But we were never taught how. We were taught to keep the peace, not to have hard conversations with grace.

I recently watched Sarah Crawford-Bohl’s TED Talk How to Speak Up — Even When You Don’t Want To.

 She shows that courage and kindness can live in the same sentence. You can hold your ground without pushing someone else off theirs.

The Four Phrases That Can Change Any Difficult Conversation

It doesn’t take a big speech. Sometimes it’s the smallest phrases that shift the whole tone of a conversation:

  • Instead of “With respect…”, try “I see it differently.”

  • Instead of “That’s wrong.”, try “Can we look at that another way?”

  • Instead of “You can’t say that.”, try “That might land differently for some people.”

  • Instead of silence, try “I’m not sure that sits right with me.”

These simple swaps are powerful. They keep people in the conversation rather than shutting it down.

Why Teaching Kids How to Speak Up Might Be the Most Important Lesson of All

Even after years of negotiation training, I still catch myself slipping into an overly forceful tone when something matters to me. It’s hard to unlearn. But that’s exactly why this work matters, because if we can teach young people how to use their voices with strength and empathy, maybe they won’t have to spend years unlearning the habits we did.

It’s the same truth behind that short film Justice,  the moment when a teacher unfairly dismisses a student and everyone stays silent

and the playful How to Start a Movement clip, where the brave first follower turns one person’s awkward dance into a movement.

In both, the real change begins when someone chooses courage over comfort.

Speaking up doesn’t have to make anyone feel small. Done with care, it can make everyone in the room a little braver.

#SpeakUpKindly #EverydayActivism #CivicCourage #RespectfulCommunication #LeadershipStartsHere #EmpathyInAction #TeachThemYoung #ChangeTheConversation #FirstFollower #KindnessIsStrength

When Advocacy Turns Dangerous: The Moment You Can’t Stay Silent

What makes a person cross the line from advocate to whistleblower? This blog explores the defining moment when conviction becomes compulsion, when the need for truth grows louder than fear.

This blog is a thought dump, something I have been ruminating on since I  became the civics reporter for our local newspaper and began to see how easily bureaucrats in local government can shut down dissenting voices, or try to. In my case, the newspaper felt compelled to go along to get along.

The breaking point came with this story. I had spent six months on it, spoken to all the parties, and was confident that the issues I and a local councillor were raising were serious and deserved investigation. The council had no right to demand its removal. When the paper gave in, I walked away from that vehicle of advocacy.

Since then, my Citizen Journalism blog has become a space for thousands of people to read and respond to the issues our community cares about. But lately I’ve been asking myself, where to from here? How far can advocacy go before it reaches a wall? And what happens when you decide to push past it?

That question is why I’ve been keen to connect with others who have stood at that same edge: people who have taken cases to court, who have become whistleblowers, who simply refuse to walk away. People who, like me, want justice not only for themselves but for anyone who comes after them.

High-level advocacy can be a lonely place. It begins with belief, the simmering conviction that systems can be persuaded to do better through reason, patience, and persistence.

From there, some advocates manage to draw others in. When their message resonates, it gathers momentum. That is where activism begins, when one voice becomes many and a shared sense of purpose forms around it. Watch the awesome TED talk here on how to start a movement.  Activism is the collective expression of outrage and hope. It is visible, energetic, and public.

Yet in the current climate, that step has become harder. Many people now see advocacy itself as risky. They fear reputational damage, professional backlash, or online attack. So even when they agree, they hesitate. The advocate who might once have built a movement often finds herself standing alone, waiting for others who never quite arrive.

And when isolation hardens and injustice continues, a few take the final, irreversible step , into whistleblowing. That is the moment when persuasion gives way to exposure, when silence becomes impossible.

These three stages, advocacy, activism, and whistleblowing trace the arc of conscience. Each asks a little more of a person’s courage, and each carries a greater cost.

What interests me most is the point where people cross that line, the moment where activism turns inward and becomes whistleblowing. What pushes someone that far?

For some, it is moral dissonance, the unbearable tension between what they believe and what they see. For others, it is rage, not the shallow anger of frustration, but the deep, shaking kind that comes from witnessing something profoundly unfair. One person in our group described it as rage becoming bigger than fear.

That is the moment when the need for justice outweighs the instinct for safety.

At first, it can look like vengeance, the wish to see something set right or someone held to account. But beneath that, there is something quieter and more enduring: the belief that truth matters, even when it costs you everything.

When people cross that line, they might become a dissident, standing openly against authority. Or a truth-teller, refusing to be silenced. Or an igniter, sparking courage in others. Sometimes they become all three. Each word describes a different face of the same decision, to tell the truth, whatever it brings.

We spoke, too, of those who have taken that step in ways that changed the national conversation. David McBride, the former army lawyer now imprisoned for exposing alleged war crimes. Richard Boyle, the ATO officer who revealed unethical debt-recovery practices and faced years of prosecution.

Both paid dearly for their integrity. Their stories remind us how fragile the bridge is between advocate and whistleblower, and how often the system punishes those who defend its principles most fiercely.

From “I” to “We” Again is That is the paradox of courage: it begins alone. The person who keeps standing becomes the “I on the hill,” not because they want to be there, but because everyone else has stepped back.

Another person we should  add to the list of whistleblowers is Brittany Higgins. Her story is different, but at its heart, she too became a whistleblower,a young woman who tried to speak truth to power. What followed, the way it was handled by the police, government, prosecutors, and the courts, seemed to build her rage to a point of no return.

It’s devastating to watch someone move from being brave enough to speak up, to being broken by the very systems meant to protect her. From a  compensation payout to, by all reports, the brink of bankruptcy.

As one of my colleagues put it, for me it is the “fuck it” line, when all of the reasons to tread carefully and be risk-averse or conflict-avoidant suddenly become worth it, because to stay silent means you are complicit, part of the system of politeness that sustains the rotten status quo.

There’s a lesson in that for all of us. It reminds me how vital it is to have those steady, wise people in our lives, the ones who act as a foil to our anger, who help us stay patient when the world feels cruel. Sometimes good things happen to good people. And sometimes we need someone beside us to help us bear that truth without letting it consume us.

Our hope, as a growing network of community voices, is to change that, to build connection around those who take the risk so no one stands alone in the wind.

Because courage, like truth, is contagious. Once lit, it spreads.

#Whistleblowers #TruthTelling #CivicCourage #Accountability #Integrity #CommunityAdvocacy #Corruption #Democracy #MoralLeadership #CourageIsContagious

Still Coming to Terms With Gareth Ward? So Am I.

Over the past week, I’ve written about what it means to face hard truths as a community. I’ve spoken about the bravery of the two young men who came forward, and the importance of recognising harm even when it’s wrapped in charm, power, or public approval.

Today, I want to turn the lens inward. Because as Gareth Ward is taken into custody, many of us are left with quieter questions — about what we believed, who we supported, and how we respond when our assumptions are shaken.

We all know the spotlight is on our community right now. The media is asking the question out loud, how could we vote for someone under this kind of cloud? And maybe you’ve had friends from outside the area ask you the same thing. It’s uncomfortable, and it can feel personal. But most of us were voting for the version of the person we thought we knew. And now, we’re being asked to hold that discomfort, to reflect, and to work out where we go from here, together.

Some of my friends, people I care about deeply, were strong supporters of Gareth. I haven’t asked them how they feel now. Maybe they’re unsure. Maybe they’re not ready to talk. And maybe I don’t know how, or maybe I don’t want to start the conversation.

But here’s what I do know: empathy matters. And not just empathy for others, empathy for ourselves too. It’s okay to say we didn’t know. It’s okay to say we’ve changed our minds. And it’s okay to feel conflicted when someone who once seemed worthy of our support is revealed to have caused harm. No amount of charm, power, or public approval excuses abuse. And the courage to admit we got it wrong — that is a form of strength too.

We don’t always get it right. We don’t always see everything at once. Most of us are just doing the best we can with what we know at the time. And sometimes we learn more, and our thinking changes. That’s not weakness. That’s growth.

It’s okay to say, “I don’t know.”
It’s okay to say, “I used to think that, but I see it differently now.”
It’s okay to change your mind without feeling ashamed.

Most of us know someone who has experienced abuse or wrongdoing. And many of us have asked ourselves quietly, “What would I have done in their place?” I know I have and honestly, there are moments where I don’t know if I would have handled it any differently.

That’s why I think the way forward isn’t about getting it perfect. It’s about being honest. It’s about giving ourselves, and each other, the space to reflect, to shift, and to keep learning.

We’re on the track. Let’s keep walking it, together.

BTW If you have a subscription to the SMH this is worthwhile read

He rots in jail for sex crimes, but this MP keeps his taxpayer-funded salary

#EmpathyMatters #LearningInPublic #ChangingMinds #MakingRoomForGrowth #CivicCourage #ReflectAndGrow #KiamaVoices #CommunityHealing

Gareth Ward – When Conviction Isn’t the End of the Story

Over the weekend, I was invited to contribute to someone else’s blog post. This afternoon, I found myself speaking live on ABC radio. The topic? Gareth Ward – our local member of Parliament who, despite facing serious sexual assault charges, was re-elected by the people of Kiama. And who, as of Friday, has now been found guilty.

On Wednesday, he will be sentenced.

And if he refuses to resign, our community may be represented by someone serving time in prison. Let that sink in.

Constitutional law expert Professor Anne Twomey explains on her YouTube channel that under changes to the state’s constitution in 2000, conviction is considered to mean “once you have reached the end of the appeals process, if you choose to appeal, and not had the conviction overturned”. (Those still in contact with Ward say he is defiant and will appeal.) Source

Both sides of Parliament have asked for his resignation. The media is circling, not because this is a quirky sideshow, but because they can’t quite believe it either: how did a man charged with these crimes manage to keep his seat?

I’ve asked myself the same thing. And to be honest, I still don’t know the full answer.

What I do know is that our community is split. Some people feel vindicated. Others feel betrayed. Many more just don’t want to talk about it. You hear it in the awkward pauses, someone mentions the conviction, another person offers an opinion, someone else disagrees  and then silence. Then a change of subject.

It’s a clear example of how hard we find it, as a community, to have difficult conversations. Not just online, but in everyday life.

And here’s what’s even harder  – accepting that someone who appeared to be dedicated, effective, and focused on outcomes for the community could also have been abusing their power in deeply harmful ways.

The dissonance isn’t about personal warmth. It’s about the contradiction between public competence and private conduct, and our tendency to overlook troubling behaviour if we think someone is “getting things done.”

That contradiction isn’t new. We’ve seen it in religious institutions, in Hollywood, in politics. And still, every time, it unsettles us. We want the world to be simpler than it is.

It reminds me of what we’ve seen in the United States,  where Donald Trump, despite multiple criminal charges, has been elected president not once, but twice. It’s bizarre, but it also says something about how loyalty works. Once people commit to a political figure, it often doesn’t matter what comes to light. The story becomes about defending a side rather than confronting the facts. And we’re seeing a version of that play out here too.

So now we find ourselves in this strange place. A man has been convicted of serious crimes, and some people still defend him. Others want to move on. Others want answers. And many of us, myself included, are wondering what we do next.

I don’t have easy answers. I do have a strong opinion. But I also know I can’t force it on anyone else.

So instead, I want to ask some questions:
How do we build a political culture that values integrity over popularity?
– Why do we ignore red flags when they come from people we think are delivering results?
– What kind of leadership do we deserve  and what do we tolerate instead?
– What would it take for our community to stop whispering and start talking?
– And perhaps most importantly: How do we move forward without brushing this under the carpet?

Because at the heart of this are two young men who had the courage to come forward. That cannot be forgotten.

The data is clear: only 13% of sexual assault cases are reported to police. Just 1.5% to 3% result in a conviction.

So, when a jury delivers a guilty verdict, it matters. It shows the system can work, and it gives others hope that they’ll be heard.

And then there’s the timeline. These men waited almost five years for this case to be resolved. That kind of delay is traumatic in itself, it shows how long justice can take, and why so many victims don’t come forward.

We may not all agree on what should happen next. But we can agree that the courage it took to speak up deserves to be acknowledged, and that justice, when it comes, must mean something.

The ABC closed our interview with a question: What would I like to see happen next?

My answer

When we have the by-election, I would like to see our community put aside their commitment to being lifelong Liberal supporters, or lifelong Labor supporters, or lifelong Greens supporters, and truly listen to what these candidates have to say. Investigate what they have done for their communities. And make a decision based on this question, does this person represent my values?

#GarethWard #KiamaVotes #CommunityAccountability #LeadershipMatters #PoliticalIntegrity #CivicCourage #PowerAndTruth #HardConversations #JusticeAndTrust